Great Directors Never Say Relax

(or: how to avoid hostage scenarios when taking family photos)image

Billy Wilder said¹ that when you direct actors you should never tell them to relax. He knew it was overly self-conscious and that the results would usually be anything but relaxing. 

His solution was to ask them to focus on something else, something specific that he would suggest - and therefore avoid mentioning the R word. 

Creative thinking.